It’s not a secret, and quite simple really. Nor does it require an impossible equation or demand tremendous effort. Here are the 10 efficient tips you need to follow to guarantee a happy and healthy relationship
1. Understand that men and women are very different.
Men and women are not the same. It is not that one is from Mars and the other from Venus; they are not even in the same solar system. When a relationship is between two different genders, one must understand these differences rather than seek to change them. Sexual and emotional needs differ and it is not something any of us can control. If a couple starts accepting these differences, many problems can be avoided.
2. Communicate openly and honestly
There is no way for you to have a healthy relationship if you are not willing to tell your partner what bothers you. Don’t postpone a conversation. It is important not to avoid difficult subjects. According to Psychology Today, negative communication patterns such as anger and contempt are linked to an increased likelihood of splitting up. Keeping concerns to yourself can breed resentment. Not only is it important to communicate, but you must do it properly. Seek to understand … and not just agree!
3. Become best friends.
For some this might sound unromantic, but for those who live it, most believe it’s the best part of their time together. Your partner needs someone they can trust — someone they can laugh and experience the most ridiculous moments with. Nothing is more beautiful than a partner who knows you through and through and speaks fondly of you in your absence. P.S., having fattening meals and discussing awkward topics helps.
4. Keep it hot.
What might change in your relationship if you and your partner committed to increasing behaviour you each find hot and limiting that which you don’t? Think about this in the broadest form. ‘Hot’ can certainly refer to bedroom preferences, but it also represents what excites us about our mate in our day-to-day lives. Do you find it hot if he/she helps you with your studies/housework? Do you find it ‘not so hot’ when he/she uses their phone while you’re speaking? Talk about what it means to you to ‘keep it hot’ in your relationship. Be amazed, be humorous, be happy!
5. Be independent.
Your partner is your partner, yes. But they are not you and you are not them. Each must have their own friends and family and must spend time alone. While some might disagree, most healthy relationships are built on the agreement that a couple doesn’t have to do everything together. Of course, it is essential to spend as much time together as possible. But your life together is a thing, and your life alone is another matter and it is a must to preserve this fine line. To grow together, you need to grow separately.
6. Don’t allow others to interfere in your relationship.
We all have friends. And let’s be honest, most of us love to talk about our partner. But before you spill all on how ‘amazing’ they are, make sure you set some limits. Your relationship is between you and your partner only. Do not allow others to interfere, no matter how close you are. Do not let negative interference ruin what you have. NB: An exception to this guideline is if you are in an abusive relationship. In this case, allow those who care about you to help you.
While most people in relationships say that they trust their partners, few actually mean it. You have to trust your partner though — it is not an option. Why would you even be with someone if you think they’re doing something wrong every time you turn your back? According to the Huffington Post, ‘if you don’t trust your partner to be faithful, honest, caring or anything else, then you’re not in a good relationship’. Do not doubt them in your absence.
8. Compromising doesn’t mean you’re weak.
Compromising doesn’t mean ‘giving in’. It doesn’t mean that you’ve lost the fight. You need to put your ego aside sometimes.Take a step back and look at the argument diplomatically. Do not let your pride get in the way of what is right. If you were wrong, admit it. It does not mean that you are weak — on the contrary.
9. Never expect anything.
The key to lasting happiness is to not expect things. For instance, don’t expect your partner to read your mind, to guess how you’re feeling, to cook you dinner, or to surprise you with a new shirt. Make sure your life-mate knows what you expect from the relationship and your stand on different aspects of life. Remember: sometimes expectations lead to disappointments.
10. Take it easy & don’t overthink.
The best relationship advice I’ve ever gotten and that I give is #easy does it — don’t overthink stuff’. When we think and worry about things, that is when we ruin a perfectly good relationship. Learn how to be more easygoing and lenient. Prevent yourself from trying to control every step of your journey with your partner. Just take a deep breath and live the moment!
These 10 steps will certainly help you maintain a healthy and happy life with your other half. However, we must always remember that it is absolutely impossible to fully understand human nature and relationships. We are complicated creatures, but we can make our lives simpler.