Disagreements are inevitable in every relationship. It would be weird to agree on everything with your significant other! But if you are beginning to feel as though you are experiencing more bad than good times with this person, then it may be time to consider if this situation is still healthy for the both of you.
In this article, we will discuss the reasons many marriages break down, when you should say enough is enough, and where to receive help and support if you find yourself in this difficult situation.
Most common reasons for divorce
Roughly 50 per cent of marriages end in divorce, with most divorces taking place within the first seven years — so it is important to know that you are not alone. Many factors can lead to divorce, with the most common being financial difficulties, affairs, lack of communication, weight gain, constant arguing, lack of intimacy, and abuse.
Should you divorce?
A divorce is a huge decision that will not only affect you and your partner but also your wider family. There are some important things to consider prior to filing for divorce. The first is deciding whether you still love your partner or not. If you do still have feelings for them, it can be best to work on your marriage — seek counselling or create a weekly date night to improve communication. Ask yourself if you have ever been happily married, and what life was like at this point, try to recreate this period in your life and work out what is now missing. Ensure prior to making the decision that you are truly ready for this step in life — and accept that this is not going to be easy for anyone involved. Divorce can stir up feelings of loneliness, betrayal, hurt, and anger — it is important that you recognise this and are able to deal with this going forwards.
Where to seek help depending on your situation
If you are located near London, consider speaking to a specialist divorce solicitor who will be able to advise and support you throughout the entire divorce process. If you would like to end your marriage, you can apply for a divorce online. This can be made as a joint application or by one person. It is important to bear in mind that a divorce can take up to 6 months to complete, even if your circumstances are straightforward and there are no disputes. Issues with children, property and finances can take even longer than this to resolve. You will also need to pay a £593 court fee when applying, as well as other costs such as solicitor fees which should be accounted for.
Divorce is never easy, it is important to fully understand the decision you are making and the consequences that will come with it. Only you and your partner will know when it is the right time, or if it is the right decision for you.
